Coffee shop in Novi Sad, Serbia. My wife Jelena, my best man Luka and I sit at one of the corner tables. It’s sunny outside. Quite beautiful weather for this time of the year. Jelena is reading the “How not to give a F**k” by Mark Manson, while Luka is texting on the phone, nervous about getting something to eat. We’re all excited about this interview. Luka’s also excited about his food. While we’re waiting, I’m happily jolting down a list of questions I’d like to ask.
Half an hour later…
Me: First of all, I’d like to thank you for accepting this invitation to do an interview! Tell us for starters, how are you feeling right now?
Luka: Currently I feel relaxed, well fed and I’m enjoying the time with my friends. So, awesome! 🙂
Smiles all around. We sure as hell don’t know what we’re doing here, but we’re still going to do it.
Me: In a few words, how’d you describe yourself to our readers, what’s your story?
Luka: I’m just a regular normal guy. A guy who has recently learned how to enjoy his little normal life, how to work for things that are dear and close to his heart. That’s what makes me me, right now.
I feel humbled by Luka’s modesty.
Me: Tell us more about this recent development – learning about how to live your life and what you care about the most?
Me: How did it get to this point?
Luka: I wasn’t very ambitious about work before. The turning point in my life was when I became a father. I realized I had to do more, not just because of myself, or money, but because of my child. My family became my imperative. I felt the need to take responsibility. I started appreciating constructivism, being productive and such things. And I started surrounding myself with such people.
Me: and then?
Luka: Then I found programming. Fell in love with it. Too much, some might say. And now, I’m trying to strike a balance. Private life and work life. I’ve cut down a lot on the work front, but I think that’s okay. Something has to give, you can’t have it all. And I don’t have to be the best programmer in the world. But I can be a good one and live a fulfilling life. I’ve always cared about being social and my spirituality, but there was a period for about 4 years of my life where I spent my time thinking just about work. That period is over for me. Nowadays, I have more time to devote to myself and people around me.
Me: Woah, so you went from no work, to too much work, and just recently you’ve reached balance… I’m glad you’re taking care of it, such an important thing to do…
Luka nods. I give him credit for doing a great job at telling his story. Welp, I even give myself some credit for doing this for the first time… I read my next question.
Me: We met in 2016 while working on Mekice. How much do you remember about it?
Luka: So, this is how it happened for me… I was in my second year of college back then. I’d studied for 20 hours straight, sometimes. I was working on an Android app. In my time breaks from work, I’d check my Facebook feed…
Me: And that’s when you saw my post, I guess?
Luka: Well, yeah, but before we go into that… I loved psychology. Because I had my own problems, I thought I could help myself by studying it. So about 2-3 years before college, I’ve read about it intensively. The old guys, such as Freud, then some motivational books, such as Sharma, then I went into philosophy, such as Nietzsche. I spent a lot of time on that.
And then I saw your post. I had no idea who you are. First thing I noticed was that the project is about psychology. I also remember seeing the “Hi from California” in it. I’ve never dreamt about California. Just saw it as something serious. In Serbia I wouldn’t trust no one with this project. That attracted me. Hey, great, I thought. Somebody is looking for volunteers to work on psychology. I had to be a part of that story. That was interesting. It changed my life forever.
Me: It changed your life… care to share how?
Luka: You mean a lot to me as a friend. Somehow, whenever we talk I learn something new. I live better materially, but also spiritually. Before I thought it’s all about money and cars, now I have a balance between that and other stuff. I’ve taken a breadth of new interests. Not just because of you, I have other friends who have helped me in this way. Friends are the best thing ever 🙂
The feeling is mutual, my friend.
Luka: We used to do PHP before this NodeJS craziness started. News arrive a bit late in Serbia. We’ve heard about NodeJS a couple years late too late. We had no resources where we could more. I had talked with some people from one of the Belgrade’s universities about it. They were interested in teaching it. That seemed interesting. But simply I thought I can’t handle that. I was thinking, let’s just do PHP, you know, whatever.
Me: So you heard of it, but it didn’t stick. What happened then?
Luka: Then, we talked for the first time, and you gave me a brain dump about this NodeJS stack. First of all, I’ve never heard about 20 new things in a single talk. I felt bombarded by your ideas. Then I felt ecstatic because I had so much to learn. I love learning. I also had a feeling these things are more advanced. In the future these things will be more applicable, I thought. It will be useful in a business sense. It has a future. I felt thrilled. And then also there was the product – psychology. Complete happiness!
As I write Luka’s comments, I start feeling this might come off as a self-promotion of some sort. I tell him to focus on himself, in my self-defense. Doesn’t come off as genuine, I think… welp, I give myself a break and continue.
Now, speaking of opportunities, there’s plenty of them. Not that many people know how to work with this, and there is a huge demand for it. Employers are very motivating and they are hiring…
I also have an opportunity to learn new things. We just bought some tutorials for progressive web apps, and that Google’s thing – AMP. At the same time, I’m learning about PureScript. Continuous learning and development is crucial. We have to keep up.
Speaking of challenges, momentarily, I don’t have many. Really don’t know what to say. Nothing serious. No stress. Rarely. The most common and the biggest challenge is finding a company that pays regularly, and legally, with all the social benefits and stuff.
Luka: I love all music. Trap and rap I do since like forever. They are the same genre for me. I’ve been working with music since I was 8… well, don’t want to lie, perhaps 11 years old. Whatever I did, whatever job, situation etc.; one thing has been given: I will make music in the evening. I actually consider myself a hip-hop artist. More than programmer, taxi driver or anything for that matter.
Me: I also hear you are working on a song! Are there any other hobbies we’re not aware of?
Luka: I’d love to exercise more. Would love to make it a habit. I believe I will start next month. I start and stop oftentimes. I’d like to make it a long term hobby.
I think about my garage gym. The most workout I got out of it is when I assembled it. I feel for Luka’s lack of sustained motivation, when it comes to exercising.
Me: Your life hasn’t always been made of “milk and honey” as we like to say. What defined you who you are today?
Luka pauses at this moment. He thinks carefully. I hear a “huh” coming out…
Luka: The birth of my child, as I said. I used to be way too much into clubbing and partying, and selfish. But this moment changed me. All of a sudden I felt sad about my current situation, of who I am. I felt bad that I didn’t do as much as I could. I felt horrible… It lasted for a year or two. And then I found something greater to live for. I didn’t give up, I started fighting for it. I stopped caring just about my pleasure, and started thinking about other people. That’s the biggest victory of my life.
Me: Any lessons you learned from that experience that you’d like to share?
Luka: I think people should learn to delay their pleasures. To find things they love to do. To devote themselves to them. To learn to give up on things that don’t really matter, you know, short term gratification and such. In the end, they will meet their goals. For me, I used to think party comes first, as in, first I’d want to go for 20 days on Ibiza, then I would do something constructive. Actually, things are different. Hard work comes first, then Ibiza 🙂 Unfortunately, I lot of people don’t realize that. I was very lucky.
Thinking about Ibiza… Jelena and I almost spent our honeymoon there last year. We look at each other and smile.
Me: You’re also a very versatile person. I know you’ve worked as a taxi driver, then in the textile industry, you also had your own start up… what did you learn from all of those?
Luka: I can’t say I’ve learned any special skills from any of these jobs that I could brag about right now. I did learn, however, how it feels when you think you don’t have any future ahead of you. Feeling hopeless. Back then, the best that could happen to me is to have a customer I’d drive for 30 kilometers instead of just 3. The best thing I could hope for is that some day I would be driving a better car. You can’t go further.
We nod at each other. Luka sways his head to the right side, as if to signal it wasn’t easy for him back then.
I just realized that I didn’t want to do that any more. I figured you won’t get anything easily. Now when I reflect, I wouldn’t even want that (getting things the easy way). The best successes are the ones that you earn. If someone told me 5 years ago, that I will be working and fighting to reach my goals, I wouldn’t believe it. Either I should have everything, or nothing – I’d rather be wasting my time, than struggle trying to achieve a normal life, that’s what I thought.
Now, I find it more exciting to have a 1000 EUR salary, then 2000, then 3000, than to make an app for 1 billion dollars and call it done for life. I love working step by step. It gives me continuous satisfaction.
Luka: Exactly, feeling the progress.
Me: This is a cheesy question, but I had to ask – looking backwards, if you could go back in time, with all the knowledge you have now, would you do that, or would you rather have any wish come true right now, and why so?
Luka pauses here… he smiles.
Luka: I’d go back and program a lot. You ask me why? I don’t know. I had a lot of free time. I wish I used it more to develop myself. Math, physics, chemistry, biology.
Me: … and looking forward, where do you see yourself in 5 years?
Luka: In a business sense, I see myself as an algorithm guy, someone who knows math better. Privately, I can’t predict, I don’t know. Perhaps I’d like to have another kid. No vision right now, I’m still searching for it.
Me: I’d like to thank you Luka for your time and wish you all the best in finding your vision. Any kind of a message you would like to send to our readers?
Luka: I genuinely want your readers to feel well and to be content and happy, with themselves. Work on yourself, invest in yourself. Spread the love around you. Positive vibes. And fight for your own goals.
I look outside, and it’s raining again…
That’s it folks, thanks to Luka for sharing his amazing story with us, it really is a gift! Hope all is well and see ya next week!